Being Left on Read: What It Really Means When They Don’t Text Back

Anyone who has dated in the last 10 years knows how much it has been left out. You don’t need to lay it down. Here’s what to do about it.

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If your message to someone is left to read, always read. Is this a sign that you are being ghosted or ignored by someone?

You’re standing up on your phone?!

If you’re not sure what we’re doing Being left read basically means that the message you sent has been read by that person. But they don’t reply to you.

Letting it read is the modern version of standing up. It sucks. You don’t get excuses or reasons or closure. And it can really make you feel bad about yourself.

As someone who was left to read once or twice I can honestly say that I feel your pain. This is why most people turn off read receipts. Most of the people who leave them either don’t know or don’t care.

And that’s what hurts When you message someone and they read it silently. Feels like you’re bothering him. They feel like they don’t care what you say and don’t want to hear from you.

When you don’t receive a reply to an unread message There are many possible reasons for that message. But when you actually realize that your messages are being seen and read with no response, there really is only one reason and it sucks.

[Read: What does it mean when someone’s ignoring your texts on purpose?]

Why does letting it read hurt so much?

Just because it hurts your ego. You create the perfect message with care. You smile at yourself because you expect a fun conversation or a funny or sweet message in return when you hit send. and then completely silent You’re a little disappointed because they didn’t “see” your message. so you wait patiently

a moment passed and next thing you know You see that your messages are marked as read, but you haven’t received a response from them.

Being left to read is painful. because during that time You realize and believe that the person you’re texting doesn’t value you as much as you value them. and worse They don’t even think you deserve an answer.

I mean, you both know each other well. Aren’t you that important that they don’t think you deserve a simple answer? That takes only a few seconds to write. [Read: The raw psychological effects of being ignored by someone you like]

The semi-stalking social era

It feels much worse when you don’t get an answer and have to keep reading. Instead, you scroll through your social media accounts to see if this “friend” is active on social media. Or even post pictures or update their lives!!

In fact, everyone will see red and smoke if they are in your place, so if you feel embarrassed and insulted. You’re not wrong to feel that way.

On the one hand, social media is a blessing. But it can also completely ruin a good friendship or even a relationship.

with social media Not only can you talk to anyone. no matter where in the world they are But you can still *whisper* the apples in your eyes without them realizing it! until it applies to you you are still reading And you must be wondering what happened! [Read: How to stalk on social media and find just what you’re looking for]

Want to know where they were last night? Check their Facebook! Want to sit and look at them in wonder? Check out their Instagram! Want to know what’s bothering them right now? Check out their Twitter!

But how should you feel when using it everywhere? But in the only place that matters to you – in your message frame the rest to read.

[Read: How to respond like a grown-up when someone ignores you deliberately]

Why were you left to read?

Simply put, if someone doesn’t reply to you and it happens more than once, I’m sorry, but take this as a negative sign. Yes, they are haunting you. they don’t care And if they text back after they “see” a few days later. They might roll their eyes and type something lame and dry just to keep their peace.

It’s harsh, I know. In a way, you should be grateful that this doesn’t happen directly to your face. That’s another benefit of social media. You can hide it behind you. It gives you a false sense of security. When it crashes, okay, it hurts, but you can get through a little storm and hide until it’s over.

[Read: The psychology of ignoring someone – Why we do it and ways to fix it]

back to that day We sent a message and don’t know if anyone saw it or not. Technology has now advanced to the point where you can see that messages are sent, delivered, and oh wait, they’ve read it!

It’s amazing when you see their picture displayed on the side of the message. Or the tick turns blue. You wait a moment. They will appear in seconds. By telling you they’re typing a message, so you wait. You wait a little longer. Then you decide they might be busy. And that’s why you don’t have to read. You waited until evening, still no answer.

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you wait until the next day If you don’t have an answer then Face the real possibility that they won’t answer because they don’t want to.

Okay, I admit, there’s a slight possibility. *Very small* that they didn’t reply for other reasons. which is considered completely acceptable. Maybe they got sick and couldn’t answer and then forgot. Perhaps they planned to reply, were excluded, and it had caused their minds to wander. Maybe they lost their phone. Maybe their battery is dead. Maybe they met in an accident. But you know this, right? The chances of this happening are very slim.

Honestly, maybe they don’t want to text back.

[Read: The clear signs you’ve been ghosted and how to deal with it]

Ask yourself: Have you been left to read on purpose?

I know that letting it read seems easy. You’ll think you’ll know if you were left reading. But sometimes it’s not that easy.

You can technically leave it readable. But don’t use the same kind of violence that you think you are. Some messages or messages don’t really need a response.

Think about your messaging style. Do you reply to every message? Do you always have something to say? How many times have you read a message and didn’t reply? I do it at least once a day.

When people don’t ask you questions Sometimes the conversation stops and there is nothing else to say. [Read: How to handle the annoying wait when someone doesn’t text back for days]

So before jumping to conclusions Lets look at your last message. Did you say “lol”? You ask a question? You are in the middle of a conversation or the end of the conversation. Think about whether the answer is really necessary or you’re just guessing yourself a second time. You don’t need to over-analyze every time you think you’re being read by someone else. [Read: When she doesn’t text back – why girls do that and what you need to do]

What if you are left to read?

Okay, it might seem like being left to read is all you need to be patient. It’s just a part of today’s dating. People no longer say they don’t care or make bad excuses. Letting it read became the new norm.

But you don’t have to put up with it. And don’t let the discarded reading put you off. If you are left to read Here’s what you need to keep in mind.

1. Do not double the message

Nobody phone crashes and sends text messages twice. So don’t send duplicate messages. And don’t message them about “accidents” pretending it’s for someone else. And of course, don’t reach out on other platforms just because they’re active. If they ignore you in one app What are the chances they are looking forward to seeing your messages in another app?!

I know you want them to respond. it’s human nature but it’s not worth it No matter how rude it is, not answering is not worth embarrassing yourself. If they want to answer, they will have. [Read: The basic rules to play it cool with double texting]

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