Anyone who has dated in the last 10 years knows how much it has been left out. You don’t need to lay it down. Here’s what to do about it.
If your message to someone is left to read, always read. Is this a sign that you are being ghosted or ignored by someone?
You’re standing up on your phone?!
If you’re not sure what we’re doing Being left read basically means that the message you sent has been read by that person. But they don’t reply to you.
Letting it read is the modern version of standing up. It sucks. You don’t get excuses or reasons or closure. And it can really make you feel bad about yourself.
As someone who was left to read once or twice I can honestly say that I feel your pain. This is why most people turn off read receipts. Most of the people who leave them either don’t know or don’t care.
And that’s what hurts When you message someone and they read it silently. Feels like you’re bothering him. They feel like they don’t care what you say and don’t want to hear from you.
When you don’t receive a reply to an unread message There are many possible reasons for that message. But when you actually realize that your messages are being seen and read with no response, there really is only one reason and it sucks.[Read: What does it mean when someone’s ignoring your texts on purpose?]
Why does letting it read hurt so much?
Just because it hurts your ego. You create the perfect message with care. You smile at yourself because you expect a fun conversation or a funny or sweet message in return when you hit send. and then completely silent You’re a little disappointed because they didn’t “see” your message. so you wait patiently
a moment passed and next thing you know You see that your messages are marked as read, but you haven’t received a response from them.
Being left to read is painful. because during that time You realize and believe that the person you’re texting doesn’t value you as much as you value them. and worse They don’t even think you deserve an answer.
I mean, you both know each other well. Aren’t you that important that they don’t think you deserve a simple answer? That takes only a few seconds to write. [Read: The raw psychological effects of being ignored by someone you like]
The semi-stalking social era
It feels much worse when you don’t get an answer and have to keep reading. Instead, you scroll through your social media accounts to see if this “friend” is active on social media. Or even post pictures or update their lives!!
In fact, everyone will see red and smoke if they are in your place, so if you feel embarrassed and insulted. You’re not wrong to feel that way.
On the one hand, social media is a blessing. But it can also completely ruin a good friendship or even a relationship.
with social media Not only can you talk to anyone. no matter where in the world they are But you can still *whisper* the apples in your eyes without them realizing it! until it applies to you you are still reading And you must be wondering what happened! [Read: How to stalk on social media and find just what you’re looking for]
Want to know where they were last night? Check their Facebook! Want to sit and look at them in wonder? Check out their Instagram! Want to know what’s bothering them right now? Check out their Twitter!
But how should you feel when using it everywhere? But in the only place that matters to you – in your message frame the rest to read.[Read: How to respond like a grown-up when someone ignores you deliberately]
Why were you left to read?
Simply put, if someone doesn’t reply to you and it happens more than once, I’m sorry, but take this as a negative sign. Yes, they are haunting you. they don’t care And if they text back after they “see” a few days later. They might roll their eyes and type something lame and dry just to keep their peace.
It’s harsh, I know. In a way, you should be grateful that this doesn’t happen directly to your face. That’s another benefit of social media. You can hide it behind you. It gives you a false sense of security. When it crashes, okay, it hurts, but you can get through a little storm and hide until it’s over.[Read: The psychology of ignoring someone – Why we do it and ways to fix it]
back to that day We sent a message and don’t know if anyone saw it or not. Technology has now advanced to the point where you can see that messages are sent, delivered, and oh wait, they’ve read it!
It’s amazing when you see their picture displayed on the side of the message. Or the tick turns blue. You wait a moment. They will appear in seconds. By telling you they’re typing a message, so you wait. You wait a little longer. Then you decide they might be busy. And that’s why you don’t have to read. You waited until evening, still no answer.
you wait until the next day If you don’t have an answer then Face the real possibility that they won’t answer because they don’t want to.
Okay, I admit, there’s a slight possibility. *Very small* that they didn’t reply for other reasons. which is considered completely acceptable. Maybe they got sick and couldn’t answer and then forgot. Perhaps they planned to reply, were excluded, and it had caused their minds to wander. Maybe they lost their phone. Maybe their battery is dead. Maybe they met in an accident. But you know this, right? The chances of this happening are very slim.
Honestly, maybe they don’t want to text back.[Read: The clear signs you’ve been ghosted and how to deal with it]
Ask yourself: Have you been left to read on purpose?
I know that letting it read seems easy. You’ll think you’ll know if you were left reading. But sometimes it’s not that easy.
You can technically leave it readable. But don’t use the same kind of violence that you think you are. Some messages or messages don’t really need a response.
Think about your messaging style. Do you reply to every message? Do you always have something to say? How many times have you read a message and didn’t reply? I do it at least once a day.
When people don’t ask you questions Sometimes the conversation stops and there is nothing else to say. [Read: How to handle the annoying wait when someone doesn’t text back for days]
So before jumping to conclusions Lets look at your last message. Did you say “lol”? You ask a question? You are in the middle of a conversation or the end of the conversation. Think about whether the answer is really necessary or you’re just guessing yourself a second time. You don’t need to over-analyze every time you think you’re being read by someone else. [Read: When she doesn’t text back – why girls do that and what you need to do]
What if you are left to read?
Okay, it might seem like being left to read is all you need to be patient. It’s just a part of today’s dating. People no longer say they don’t care or make bad excuses. Letting it read became the new norm.
But you don’t have to put up with it. And don’t let the discarded reading put you off. If you are left to read Here’s what you need to keep in mind.
1. Do not double the message
Nobody phone crashes and sends text messages twice. So don’t send duplicate messages. And don’t message them about “accidents” pretending it’s for someone else. And of course, don’t reach out on other platforms just because they’re active. If they ignore you in one app What are the chances they are looking forward to seeing your messages in another app?!
I know you want them to respond. it’s human nature but it’s not worth it No matter how rude it is, not answering is not worth embarrassing yourself. If they want to answer, they will have. [Read: The basic rules to play it cool with double texting]
try not to think too much Sometimes being left to read is just that. That doesn’t mean they don’t like you. It doesn’t mean they are haunting you or intentionally ignoring you.
People get busy. Maybe they read it, forget to answer or get distracted by something. let it be if they want to talk to you They will eventually reach out. Being left out to read by someone doesn’t have to be as scary as it sounds.
3. Send messages to others
Instead, focus on the person who didn’t answer. Instead, send a message to someone else. Texting or talking to someone who makes you interested and appreciate what you have to say will not only keep you from wasting time reading it. but also feel better [Read: How often should you text someone? 17 must-know rules of texting]
4. Let them know how you feel.
We don’t always recommend this. But what if you are read by your friends or even your partner over and over? You should let them know how that makes you feel. We know it’s just an unanswered message. But your feelings about being left to read are completely valid and acceptable.
They might think it’s not a big deal. But if you tell them how it makes you feel They can care more in the future to make sure they will answer. [Read: Why do guys come back when you ignore them? The mind games of men]
5. Forget it
It can be difficult to let it go and move on, but it’s actually one of the healthier options to make. Instead of deciphering why someone would let you read it. Contemplating what it means or worrying about what this person thinks of you. Let it go.
I know it’s easier said than done, but if you can, it will give you more confidence to move forward. Not everyone is a good texter, not everyone likes you or wants to talk. and it’s okay As long as you are happy with yourself Reading doesn’t have to affect you. [Read: Dry texting and the real meaning behind those one word responses]
6. Ask them to close the read receipt.
This is a decision you really have to make. But it can help you. Right now, some people may not know they have read receipts and others. left for some reason But if you can’t help but feel the pain of being left out, read on. Ask them if they can turn it off.
The downside is that you won’t know if they’re not interested in you or just not reading your messages. But sometimes it gets better, so it really depends on what you think will be easier for you.
Right now, you can’t ask random people or your crush to do this. But if you have a close friend or partner you feel comfortable with. They should work with you to make sure you don’t get upset. [Read: How to stop feeling ignored by someone you love]
7. Get a hint
I hate being violent like this. But sometimes it’s the way the world works. I hope everyone will say what’s on their mind and let you know if they don’t want to say it. But that’s not the case.
by not answering or worse leave you in read state This person may have sent you a message. They might not just be busy or forgetful. But it might want you to get the picture without saying anything. Yes, it’s a cowardly move. but it still happens It doesn’t seem to stop anytime soon.
So, the next time you find yourself left out, read on. may use value as it deems appropriate It’s a form of negativity and a bad one. when you accept You can move to the people who responded to their messages. Or better turn off read receipts![Read: Why do narcissists ignore texts and do the selfish things they do?]
What should you do if they look really nice but leave you reading the message?
This is a difficult situation. And I’m sure you’ve experienced this with a friend or even a partner.
You message them or even ask questions They read your message. but they don’t answer and several hours later or a few days later you accidentally met them and marvel at them They are as warm and friendly as ever!
You’re obviously confused. if they ignore you Why do they look so good? Is this all a mistake? Are you just overthinking? If this has ever happened in your life Here’s what to help you figure out what they’re thinking.
1. They’re filling you with gas.
Oh, they think they texted you back and forgot about it all? Pity them! Or they say they never received your message? or worse The two of you talking on the phone right after you text them? Maybe they’re just trying to confuse you into admitting that it’s your fault. [Read: How to spot gaslighting and stop them from manipulating you]
2. Really forgot to answer.
This can happen to the best of us. we open the message Read it and something popped up as we were about to type a reply. Whatever happens life gets in the way But how often does it happen? That’s what you need to think.
3. They don’t think it’s worth answering.
Of course, maybe they’ll just send an emoji to end the conversation. which should be easy to interpret But just let it read. It hurts, but maybe your message doesn’t deserve an answer.
4. They’re busy
They open the message, read it, smile to themselves. and back to work They were very busy and didn’t think the message needed an answer. Maybe yes, but for them. It might not be as important.
The right thing for them to do here is to at least send a short message saying, “Busy, call me” or “At work, text you soon.” It literally takes all that time. 3 Seconds to hit submit, but, um, maybe they’re a little less sympathetic than you. [Read: How to stop being so sensitive all the time]
5. They’re using you.
Maybe they didn’t expect to see you in person, but they did, so instead of discussing awkward conversations about why they ignored your message and let you read it. They’re playing well by being extra cute and friendly. They want to connect with you because you gave them something of value. But they probably don’t care less about you. [Read: Real friends vs fake friends – 21 ways to instantly tell them apart]
6. They are controlling you.
A narcissist knows how to blow hot and cold like the back of his palm. If someone lets you read a book and act like you’re creating a big problem in vain. There is a high chance that they will adjust the terms for you to accept it. They are training you to be a circus beast to learn to accept their disgusting behavior by insulting it.
And soon, they will stipulate that you believe it’s okay. when they ignore you And you have to learn to be patient with it. [Read: 15 signs a friend is using you and draining the happiness out of you]
Fake people do this all the time. They ignore your messages. And you do the same with them. Being left to read is something you never talk about. If you’re not pretending And your friend might be in a bad relationship. And it’s time for you to let them go. [Read: How to recognize fake people instantly and stay away from them]
Are there any other possible explanations that will be left to read?
admit it As you may know, letting it read is a bad sign. You may believe that there are other reasons. correct for this And you know what? Maybe, but what should you do with it?
Should you send another message?
There may be a unique reason why you were left reading. In that case, how do you feel about sending other messages?
It’s a borderline topic. First of all, does it make you look hopeless? I think it depends on the content of the last message. You can continue with something joking, “Hey, are you lost?” or something sincere, like “Hope everything goes well!” or something like that. However, they can do that.
Stay calm and go for it if you can’t restrain yourself from sending that second message. Instead, say something casual or funny instead of accusing them *even when filled with anger!*
Simply put, if you are left to read What is another malicious message? However, if you are still left reading after the second message. Lets step away from mobile devices!
Actually, there are more than two messages left to read. It’s a serious message that they don’t really want to talk to you. Continued messaging outside of that point was a bit hopeless. Actually, it’s very hopeless. don’t be that person
was left to read out of anger.
Have you ever had an argument with someone and your message was left without a reply? What should you do in that case?
It depends on the argument: who is to blame, what they say, and whether you should apologize.
Chances are they will calm down and respond. but in their own time After the second message, wait. Don’t despair, as it’s likely you’ll get a response after a day or two. but don’t keep pushing Some people need space when they are angry. when left alone for a while They will see the meaning circling around And the message flooded again.
If you want to apologize for something you said or did and your message has been read. There’s one important message you should send as the last point, sorry! Say you’re sorry and leave Let them work out and come back to you in their own time. [Read: The guide to help you grow up and face life like an adult]
The last word left to read Don’t waste your time with people who don’t answer.
What if someone leaves your message without replying regularly? Let’s walk away! Don’t waste a second time with someone who can’t even be bothered to reply quickly!
To be honest, it takes seconds to send someone a text update these days. We can all type so fast that a paragraph takes 30 seconds.
when you look like that The excuse of being too busy is pitiful. It basically means they don’t regard you as important enough to respond. Or they just can’t care. No excuses are acceptable, it’s just downright rude. [Read: Why did he stop texting me back? 13 rules you should follow]
Even if you don’t want to talk to anyone. Even if you are not interested in him in love. But it’s good manners to reply to them and make it clear, right? Am I just conservative? [Read: How to text a girl who stopped responding and win her attention back]
It’s embarrassing when people leave more than one of your messages without replying. Don’t embarrass yourself further by continuing to give hope. And don’t message them again. Instant messages can take as little as 30 seconds to type and send. But that’s the 30 seconds you don’t deserve. Do more of the things that deserve your time.
It’s also possible that they’ll respond to you when they see fit, like a week or longer. Maybe when bored with things that used to last a long time. What should you do? Let them read instead! But if you can’t make yourself mean. Send a short reply. Go back to them and try to end the conversation with them. They’re not worth your time, are they?[Read: Why do ghosts come back? An insight into the mind of a ghoster]
Leaving reading is the most confusing and uncomfortable part of modern dating and communication. But you can learn to move forward. And remember, this is not a reflection of you. But it’s a coward who chooses not to text you back.[Read: The science behind craving them more when you feel ignored]
If you are reading That’s a clear sign that this person isn’t going to reply to you anytime soon. No one is too busy accepting others. Don’t waste your time waiting.