Controlling People: 14 Common Traits and Ways to Deal with Them

It could be your parents, your boss, or your significant other. but whoever A manipulative person is very dangerous. This is what they like.

I have two friends who have an abusive relationship. and you know what? it shocked me I don’t just feel bad for them. But not yet in a million years I would expect them to end up in such a devastating situation.

No one likes to feel like an animal in a cage and controlled by another person, but sadly, that’s true for many people in the world.

However, the scariest part is that the victims of manipulation are unaware of the situation they are in. They were beaten so much that it was normal for them. it’s their truth So they didn’t even ask questions. But I’m here to tell you… it’s not normal.

The 10 Biggest Characteristics of Controlling People

interesting is People who are in control are very good at what they do. What I mean is that they slowly but surely open up their repressive behavior. when it happens slowly The victim will not notice a change in behavior relatively easily.

But if you’re wondering if you have control over these people in your life, read on. Here are 10 aspects of controlling people. [Read: 15 questions to handle a controlling personality instantly]

#1 constant criticism One of the key characteristics of controlling people is that they constantly criticize others. Why? because they want to beat you If you feel powerless from constant criticism You won’t be able to counterattack. That’s just what the controller wants.

#2 Their love and acceptance are conditional. If you hear things like, “If you cook me dinner and have it cooked in time…”, then that person means that if you don’t comply with their demands. They will not love or accept you.

But the strange thing is Even if you follow They still don’t love and accept you. not because of you but because they cannot truly love others. *including myself* [Read: 25 signs of covert narcissism – A special kind of mind game]

#3 they separate you Another thing that moderators do is they make sure that you are no longer connected to your friends or family. *or more often* Again, this happens slowly. If it’s sudden You will notice it and may retort.

but over time Controlling people requires you to be with them – and only them. The reason is because if you tell your loved one how that person treats you. It might be hiding him It will let others know how to control them. and the uncontrollable people want that to happen. [Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend]

#4 they collect points Like a basketball game They will remember all the “good” things they did for you. and they will make you pay for it. Even if your score is much higher than their score. They won’t accept it.

That’s because the scorecard is imaginary. all in their head It was their own imagination. So they can do whatever they want. And since it’s not actually written, you probably won’t challenge them. It’s a sneaky trick that works well for controlling people.

#5 Guilt is the primary tool for motivation. Guilt is one of the most powerful persuasion tools in the world. No one likes to feel guilty. So if and when we do so We will act on the needs of others just so that we can get rid of that bad feeling.

The bad part was that the mastermind knew about it. They may not consciously know. But, of course, guilt is an effective way to control people. That’s why they do it. So if someone makes you feel guilty all the time. It’s a strategy that will control you. [Read: 10 guilt-free ways to handle guilt trippers in your life]

#6 They violate your privacy. Looks like someone picked up your bag? Or maybe you swear you have unread messages or emails. But now it’s marked as read? Hmmm… maybe because someone has already watched it.

There’s nothing personal to someone who likes to be in control. They feel they have a right to know everything. because when they do They can use their knowledge and information to continue to control others. That is why they tend to snoop and you have no privacy.

#7 They accuse you of lying You’ll hear things like “You’re cheating on me!” or “I know you did that…” because they’re trying to catch you lying. And even if they know you’re not lying They want you to think they think you are.

See what’s going on here? It’s all mind games. When they enter your mind and start dealing with it. You will begin to question yourself – and the truth. They create a lot of self-doubt in you. And when that happens, they win.

#8 They won’t leave you alone. Everyone likes being alone sometimes. But a mastermind won’t let you have that. They certainly won’t let you be with other people. but will allow you to be with them and only them.

This is the driving force Not because they value your company. This control strategy is closely linked to separating you from family and friends. They only want you to be around them and no fun “personal time”. [Read: How to stop being manipulated in a relationship]

#9 They say you’re worthless without them. Controlling people will make you think you need them. they have to do that Because if you think you can live without them, then you will leave, and that’s definitely not what the controller wants.

to hold you back They have to cut you down even further, saying you’re nothing without them. And guess what? It’s the best brainwash. After hearing that for a long time You really start to believe it.

#10 They have no compassion. feeling? What feeling? Controlling people is not accepting that others have feelings. Do you know why? because if so They will have to face the reality of the pain they have caused.

Overly controlling people live in their own fantasy world. and in that imaginary place Their victims had no feelings. That’s why they are treated like objects. [Read: How to handle controlling behavior in a relationship]

What would you do if you were a victim?

If you have someone who likes to control your life. You don’t have to endure it. There are steps you can take to make your life better. Here are some things you can do.

#1 be honest with yourself Accept the fact that you are in a situation where you are being controlled. You can’t change what you don’t know. So the first step is accepting to yourself that this is happening.

Just as alcoholics cannot seek help if they do not know they have a problem. You can’t help yourself if you don’t accept it either. [Read: How to recognize and stop selfish people from hurting you]

#2 stand up for yourself This was tricky if the operator continued to attack. *which is unacceptable* but standing up to those trying to deceive you will leave them. They won’t know what to do. Love yourself enough to call them mental games.

#3 escape from them If possible, remove yourself from the relationship. This will be more difficult with family members. But if it’s someone you can distance yourself from, then do it. You have to stay as far away from them as possible. [Read: Emotional manipulation – 14 ways people mess with your mind]

#4 Ask for help. There are many people and organizations that can help you. whether it’s a good friend family members, therapists, or shelters You have to find someone to help you. Sometimes it’s so bad that you can’t do it alone. so feel free to contact There are always loved ones to help you.

as you can see Controlling people can ruin your life. Some of the controls are delicate. While some controls are more obvious but no matter what Recognize these signs and love yourself enough to stop them.