Feeling Used by a Guy? How to Read the Signs & Do the Right Thing

If you feel that men like to use It’s time to do something. We cannot stand and let ourselves be used. Let’s talk.

As someone who feels used by the guy I’ve been dating for over four years. I’m here to prevent you from doing what I do. The funny thing is before you know it. You’re used to it.

when a guy is using you He wasn’t always clear on this matter. It’s subtle. At first, you feel like you’re doing the right thing for the people you care about. Even if you start to be overlooked and the relationship is out of balance. You tell yourself to treat him the way you want to be treated.

So you continue to let him use you. And it can be many things such as sex, work, errands, etc.

But the first step in stopping the feelings men use is to notice when they happen. [Read:  How to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you]

When I feel used by men

Four years is a long time for men to feel used. and from my mistake I hope I can guide you in the right direction. What am I overlooking?

The relationship started well. He seemed to appreciate me for going out of his way for him. He said good things and thanked me. But after this became the norm for us. what we expect I drive him to school every day. Even if it makes me late I did my homework for him. We never spend time together unless there is some sexuality going on. But I didn’t see that at the time.

I think I’m doing everything I should for the people I love. I feel like a big fan, not a fool. but i’m a fool I didn’t look past his manipulation. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend you shouldn’t ignore]

He would feel guilty for doing his homework saying that he couldn’t spend time with me if he had to do his homework on his own. Then he would get mad at me if I was sick and couldn’t drive him. It happened that made me realize that he was using me.

One time I drove to his house but he didn’t come out. I called, knocked on the door, and called again. His mother told me that he would not go to school that day. I was late because he wasn’t fit to tell me I shouldn’t have picked him up.

later that day instead of apologizing Instead, he got angry at me for opening the door and talking to his mother. That’s when the water gate opened. I saw all the behaviors I did while he used me. I felt used by a man and didn’t know how to separate myself from the form I was. And I don’t want to upset him or hope to change too much. But when it feels to be used by men, things have to change. [Read: How to stop please people and feel awesome instead]

How to stop feeling used by men

First of all, it’s not just the feelings that men use. You are actually being used by men. You can’t stop feeling like that. stop It was actually used by men.

but how

#1 Ask for more information. Of course, some men don’t see how scary they are. They’re used to you being a saint and just expecting it now. so that he could benefit from the doubt just once Ask him to do more for you.

ask him to take you out help you project Anything that makes him see everything you do for him. Not only will the relationship be a little more balanced. But you get more of what you deserve. [Read: 16 reasons why you’re always being taken for granted by others around you]

#2 refuse. From all I can recommend This is one of the hardest and most rewarding. Stop doing things that make you feel familiar. It’s hard to feel like you’re turning your back on someone who depends on you. and depends on his nature The reaction can be severe.

Either he asks you to do something and you refuse or doesn’t do something that he expects of you. He might react badly, he might get angry, angry, or feel betrayed. This is a guy who is used to using you. And now you’re taking a stand He won’t like to get his way.

But stand still, don’t make excuses either. Don’t say you’re too busy tell the truth After struggling for a long time I finally told my ex that our relationship only existed when it was convenient for him. He must have expected me to cancel plans for him. He only spent time with me on his terms.

#3 put your feelings first in a relationship You feel like you should put your partner first. but if he uses you He is not your partner he is your boss You don’t have to please him all the time. Relationships are give and take. If you always give and he always receives That’s not a relationship At least it’s not a good relationship.

So give yourself first do what is right for you not for him take care of what you want I’ve done my ex’s homework before. and mine when I’m tired and nod But instead I focused on my job. I relaxed, and I stopped caring if he said he needed me. He didn’t, but I did. [Read: How to stop being manipulated in a relationship]

#4 plan. Keeping yourself busy is one of the best ways to stop having feelings for men. And it will stop you from being used by him as well. If you are busy with other matters How will he use you? Get out. Focus on work. Redesign your bedroom. Do whatever you can to keep busy.

Avoid staring at your phone. The busier you are The less you will miss him. This will not only help you stop the sensations used by men. but also builds your independence It helps you appreciate yourself and what you offer the world. besides this guy

#5 Prioritize your friends One of the most common ways we feel men use it is when they feel guilty for canceling plans for them. Often they spend time with us if they don’t have anything better. But we are forced to wait to hear from them.

Somehow, when we feel that a man is being used, we fall into his trap in front of our friends. Not only unhealthy But our friends are always by our side, whether they are men or not. So plan and don’t cancel the second they call. Prioritize the people who value you.

#6 face him If you can’t seem to break up with this guy, talk to him, let him know how you feel and how he can help fix it. Let him know that you are doing your best and that he is using you.

I can’t promise that this will go well or that it will change his behavior. But it’s worth a try. Some guys are right and want to make you feel the most grateful. [Read: How to set boundaries and feel more in control of your life]

#7 give an ultimatum Another difficult way to stop feeling used by men. but sometimes it is necessary If you love this man It’s almost impossible to finish things off. Even if you were treated badly Do you think that love can overcome everything? and one day he will learn

but you have to put you first This is your life, not his, and it’s better to respect yourself than use it to him. Would you rather be happy alone or unhappy with him? Tell him if his behavior doesn’t change. You can’t do it anymore then stick it Empty promises make things worse. You can only take the ultimatum route if you plan to live accordingly.

The feelings of men use to suck. You feel like a fool and feel worthless. And it’s hard to break that cycle, but if I do, so can you.