There’s nothing more annoying and mood-killing than a head press. Learn how to deal with situations without completely upsetting your mood.
Think back for a moment about a situation that might put pressure on you. Have you ever been in a gradual sexy situation and suddenly Do you find that your head is being pushed subtly into the space beneath your partner?
It’s quite a mood killer, right?
you are in this moment everything is going well you can really feel You are flowing with the current Suddenly the ups and downs and you are facing the bullseye. Surely your partner is communicating with you quietly. that they want you to do it orally, but hey, of course there’s a better way!
For some people, the push-up routine isn’t a problem for them. Well, if that’s the case, then you don’t need to learn how to deal with it because you don’t care about it. However, if you’re like me and many others, you don’t like being pushed towards someone’s genitals. Frankly or gently, in that case, how do you deal with the problem without completely destroying the atmosphere and mood in the room? How do you make them understand that this is a problem for you?
communication.[Read: How to be an adult: 15 mature ways to handle situations like a grown up]
Why is my head-pushing routine a problem?
It’s a problem if you don’t like it. You don’t have to explain yourself or be rational. Just knowing you don’t like it is enough. However, think about the real meaning.
When someone lowers your head to the crotch without words or anything else They want you to bow down to them. They didn’t ask, didn’t hint, didn’t do anything, but said, “It’s time.”
Not very sexy, right? Not very romantic[Read: The sex buzzkill – what will kill the mood in the bedroom fast!]
Such an intimate act had to be created unsolicited. It also requires your consent that you are willing to do so. This is the same for a one night stand as well as a long term relationship. You shouldn’t feel pressured to give someone oral affection. Unless you choose to do it on your own volition.
While most people who do the old push-up routine don’t do it in a dangerous way. It’s important that they realize this can be done.
Some people do this for fun. They nudge you in that direction because they aren’t sure how to ask you to verbalize it. they are embarrassed So they try to push you in that direction to give you a hint. They shouldn’t have done it in the first place!
Personally, I say this if you’re uncomfortable with being pushed your head or tiptoed over someone’s genitals. That’s a problem and should be stopped.
But how?[Read: How to talk about sex with your partner without sounding weird]
How to deal with pushers without ruining the moment
First of all, you probably don’t want to make a big deal out of it. You’re pretty sure they’re not doing this in a malicious way. It can be a bit playful right now. To be honest, some people learn these things by watching porn. They think this is what you do. But it’s not something everyone likes either!
The best way to deal with it is to tell them you don’t like them when they do. The next time they do a head-pushing routine, gently move their hands away from your head. “Please don’t do that, I don’t like it” if you’re willing to do it word-of-mouth. Do it on your own without the need for pressure. If you’re not happy to keep going that route. don’t do that Do something else instead or stop altogether. whatever you are satisfied with[Read: Don’t be run over – learn how to stand up for yourself in your relationship]
You have to communicate this to your partner or they will know you don’t like it. If you just use the hint every time they push your head in that direction. They might think you quite like it and keep doing it. You can break a routine by speaking out. You don’t have to do this to make an accusation. “Don’t do that to me!” way. Just gently suggest that next time they want you to give your head. they will tell you
If the suppressor attacks and feels paranoid That’s their problem. You should also question whether you want to continue to bond with someone who acts like a child when you point out their dislike for them. However, most of the time, they will stop doing it and realize it’s not something you admire anymore. At times, they might think you like it. And that’s why they keep going.
People may be afraid to talk too much about what they do and don’t want in the bedroom, too. It also covers things you don’t like to happen to you. This was an intimate and fragile moment. You should feel safe every step of the way. If being pushed on your head makes you feel insecure be a stimulant Or just pet hatred? You have the right to say so. And you should always do that. [Read: 15 things girls do that can turn a guy off in bed]
Failure to do so means the push will continue, and who can blame them? They weren’t told otherwise and you’re welcome to go with it. They are not mind readers. Being mature enough to have sex, whether fully or not. This means that you are mature enough to talk about it and communicate your needs, likes and dislikes. Sure, it might look a little bad. But without words, nothing will change.[Read: How to have a difficult conversation without losing your nerve]
despite all this But the push-up routine has been around for a long time. Again, it depends on the influence of porn. In porn, it’s usually a guy pushing a woman’s head towards his crotch. Silent Signs It’s Time for Oral
in these movies Usually the woman will follow and act accordingly. But we all know that porn is unrealistic and not real life. You don’t need to go looking for it. You don’t have to put up with it. If you don’t like it, you can tell. I ask you to say so! [Read: 25 common porn myths that people still believe]
However, it might be because you really like it. Some people do. In that case, keep going! We all have our own sexual likes and dislikes. No one should judge you for your sexual likes and dislikes. As long as your partner is on the same page as you. It’s not really a problem. Both of you should enjoy yourself behind closed doors.[Read: How far is too far for you? How to have boundaries in dating]
The push-up routine is as old as the hill. Your encounter is going to be mouth-to-mouth. But what if you don’t like it? You owe it to yourself to speak up and ask your partner to stop doing it.