As someone who was led by men and even led a few men in her day. I am uniquely qualified to answer this question. Is he leading you?
The thing about being taken is that when it happens. You never know you are hopeful and excited Never even considered the question: Is he leading you?
If you have been guided before You know the end result is nothing but hopeful or exciting. In fact, it feels like you’ve been demolished. And that’s because you have
when someone leads you They don’t treat you with respect. They play with your emotions with little sympathy for your pain.
This is why it is important to be able to spot the signs that he is leading you. Is he leading you or is he sincere in his intentions? Stop it before you hurt. [Read: How to play the player and return the favor like a boss]
What does it mean to be led?
Before we talk about the signs he is leading you. Make sure you really know what it means to be led It’s not always black and white and can be confusing. So I’ll put it there for you.
when someone leads you It shows that they are giving you false hopes. Some people think that they are flirting with the person who bought you a drink as an inducement. In my book, it’s too small to be considered a leader.
in my book To be led is when someone gives you hope. either indirectly or directly That they care about you when they know they don’t plan to follow through.[Read: 11 obvious signs that he’s just using you]
You can already be taken to a ghost. You can be taken and stand up. Or you will always be taken and discarded or used and let down.
I’ll give an example of being taken from my own personal experience. I’m talking to someone new for about two weeks. Before, I asked him flatly what he was looking for. He told me that he wanted to take things slowly, but ended up looking for a relationship.
After that, he continued to push that point home by telling me what we were going to do in the future. how nervous is he I didn’t like him when we met. and how happy he is that he has found me
Of course, I’m a skeptic. And as it turned out, so was it. One day he texted me that he was sorry but didn’t want anything serious. He took me for weeks. He didn’t justify or make excuses.
Now I appreciate the sincerity It’s definitely better than projecting all the light. But that’s what led to
Sure, he might have his own reasons, like he found someone he liked more, lost interest, feared our relationship, blah, blah, blah, but in my book. 9/10 times when someone leads you They plan to dump you from the start.
Of course, sometimes they want something from you, like sex or friendship. Sometimes they do it to do it. but for whatever reason You deserve to know when it will happen. [Read: 10 signs he’s not playing hard to get he’s just playing you]
Is he leading you?
Why do you think he is leading you? What brought you to this article?
whatever it is I can confidently say that there is a 90% chance that your gut sensation will be seen. If you feel guilty and you are questioning his intentions So you should be
Now, I hate being Debbie Downer, but that’s an opportunity. Of course, sometimes we overthink and have trust issues. But if you feel that he is leading you He might be like that.
Is he leading you? Well, trust your gut, women and men. And if you still want to make sure you can feel good about dropping his butt, read on.
Signs that he is leading you to
If he shows these signs show that is leading you Are there excuses that can be made and arguments that can prove me wrong? Of course. Why waste your time when you deserve better?
This is a sign that he is leading you.
#1 He said he wasn’t looking for anything serious. This is something that many of us tend to overlook. Some men are frank that they are leading us We ignore or deny it.
When a guy says this but starts treating you like he wants to be in a relationship. We assume he has changed his mind. But you can’t assume. no matter what his actions If he says he doesn’t want anything serious You treat you like he does. He will take you openly. [Read: Why do guys ghost? 15 common reasons why they turn into cowards]
#2 he’s just single Not all singles are players. But there’s a good chance that a guy who just got out of a relationship won’t want to settle down. Even if he claims to have broken up with his ex and doesn’t plan to lead you on. But it’s likely to turn that way. always awake
#3 he is not in contact Only the guy who guides you will give you his full attention so you can find him. He wants you to think that he cares enough so you don’t have to try. [Read: 10 reasons a guy could be ignoring you]
#4 he is too charming Whenever you feel that he is charming or too gentle or soft. He might be like that. When a man is really interested He will be nervous, yes, even the most confident. If everything he said was perfect That’s not because he’s perfect. It’s because he plays you well to get what you want.
#5 he likes you too fast I’m not saying you’re not worthy of someone who likes you. But when someone likes you loads without knowing you, it’s weird. Men seem to think this is the best way to get your attention.
And we always fall in love with it. Ask what this guy knows about you. Does he really like you? Does he really want you to like him?
#6 He didn’t follow his words. words only go so far If he plans and cancels or says he’ll call you later but doesn’t. Shows that he is not investing as he claims to be.
#7 he is confused If you’re talking to a guy who makes you question everything he might be guiding you. He wants to find a balance in keeping you interested and keeping his distance so he doesn’t have to take the responsibility of hurting you later.
If he makes you feel crazy That’s because he tries to do it. [Read: Blowing hot and cold? 3 stages to explain why he’s doing that]
#8 His story has changed. Did he tell you at first that he was free every Thursday? But by Thursday, he has plans? Did he tell you that he would text you at 8 But when 8 The clock strikes him, does not reach out and does not answer you?
If he can’t tell his story directly, it may be because he is lying and possibly speaking to more than one person.
#9 It’s a battle for planning. The guy leading you will be a planning nightmare because he’s waiting for what he thinks would be better to come in and wants you as a backup.
#10 You always wait for him. Do you always wait for him to text you? Are you waiting for him to break up with your ex or have time for a relationship? If he is waiting for you Not only will he not consider your time valuable. But he doesn’t consider you valuable either.
#11 He always turns conversations into sex. A lot of guys that lead you to are looking for a thing, sex. And if that’s what you want, great, if not, and he knows, he’ll date you until he gets what he wants.
If you just send him a selfie or a cute outfit and he turns everything into something sexual. He will lead you and lose patience while doing so. [Read: The signs he just wants sex and is using you for his enjoyment]
#12 He doesn’t go anywhere with you. The guy who leads you in the effort he needs to keep you interested. He will say the right thing but won’t do anything he doesn’t want.
That means he won’t take you to the dance. go out to dinner or even drink he will be local
#13 He uses the same lines. If he repeats to himself often There is a high chance that he will take you. Maybe he used the pet’s name too quickly or repeated what he knew you had responded well before.
Not because he’s cute or a good listener. He’s a bummer and does the least to impress you.
#14 He says, “He is not like everyone else.” If a man says this You should escape as soon as possible. He is definitely leading you.
#15 He overreacts to your concerns. If you are an adult and tell him your concerns and he feels uncomfortable or guilty about asking him. He’s guiding you, and he’s good. [Read: The 12 clues your guy is just using you]
#16 You just get the feeling. Sometimes you can feel When something goes wrong and you can’t put your finger on it. Just because he doesn’t show you that he’s leading you. Your instincts were made for this.[Read: Is he a player or a gentleman? 13 clear giveaways]
Is he leading you? Sadly, if you look at this article, he probably does, but don’t worry. You can do better and you will