Is he dating you or slowing down? Discover the signs that he is taking his time or being a fool when it comes to your heart.
If you’ve been seduced by men You know how annoying it is. you know the mixed signal You get excited and disappointed and don’t seem to understand your feelings, let alone him. But when you think men are leading you He may be more respectful and slow things down. How do you know if he is dating you or is moving slowly?
My first advice is to ask him. I know it sounds risky. but give it a chance If you are confused by the actions of men Ask him what happened.
If he admits that he acts slowly Because he’s just out of the relationship, that’s great, but the guy you’re dating might not be honest about it.[Read: The signs he just wants sex and is only using you for his enjoyment]
when a man takes you There’s a reason for that He wants to increase his ego, or he wants to sleep with you, or he wants you around just in case. Maybe he wants to keep his options open. But he’s afraid that if he tells you the truth about your insecurities or true intentions. You’ll leave him, or worse, tell him.
So, although I hope that open and frank communication will work here. But they lie, so you might want to try something else to see if he’s dating you or is slowing down.
What slows it down?
Before we know what your man is up to. I want to clarify something first. When you’re wondering if he’s dating you or is slowing down. You might hope to slow down. You hope he’s nervous or hesitant because of his past, or maybe he’s extremely respectful, but taking it slow, even if he’s saying that. It doesn’t always mean what you think.[Read: Looking for official? The real signs he wants you to be his girlfriend]
Even though the relationship timeline is meaningless and each relationship moves at its own pace. But it needs to work for both of you. If it’s been six months and you feel like you should have seen his family. But he doesn’t call you his girlfriend and you haven’t met his friends yet, things are off, that might be too late for you. But it’s totally fine for him.
And when a guy says he wants to take things slow, it gives you hope. You think that means things will progress eventually. but he takes his time Unless he explains why he’s slow and you agree. Slowness can be an excuse to commit to you.
Maybe he wasn’t on purpose. Maybe he really likes you. But if he’s not ready for a relationship and is afraid of commitment, the slow pace can take a lot longer than you might think.[Read: Is he a commitment phone? Here’s how to tell for sure]
If you find him moving slowly Don’t just accept it and move on. Discuss why he wants it to slow down. Talk about your ideal rhythm. Are you ok to move slowly? Or do you want him to meet you halfway? Also, find out what being slow means to him. Does that mean you won’t have sex? Does that mean you’re having sex without commitment? It may mean that you are seeing someone else. Or does that mean you’re going on a date or just sharing the couch with Netflix?
Ask him if the movement is slow. What does it mean to him? Does he know or just follow the trend? If there is no clarity knowing that he gradually proceed slowly will not make you feel comfortable In fact, it can make you even more anxious and stressed. [Read: Is he leading you on? 16 definitive signs he’s playing you for fun]
Is he dating you or slowing down?
Now that we’ve explained what it means to take it slow, let’s take a look at how he’s actually doing it. Or is he really dating you?
If he is late he will:
give you time The guy who comes into you no matter how late he wants to do something, will have time. He’ll drive you to your house if you can’t be found. He’ll FaceTime you or call you on the phone to talk. If you haven’t met, you’re not slow, but stay still. [Read: Is he a player or a gentleman? 13 clear giveaways]
share things with you Even if you don’t label anything and just get to know each other. He will share things with you. He will talk about his family. his dream job, and more. He’s not just talking about movies and sports. When you do things slowly, you become aware of your vulnerability. But sharing what makes you weak Even if it’s slow, you’re moving forward.
Let’s go on a date. You probably haven’t met his family yet. But he’ll take you out to eat, to the movies, or to just take a walk in the park. A guy who likes you will want to impress you with thoughtful dating.
He doesn’t just leave things in mid-air or take you home from scratch. Sitting comfortably on the sofa doesn’t really slow you down, does it?
including you Even if you feel uncomfortable If he sees the possibility of this going somewhere, he will include you. He will invite you to a friend’s party or introduce you to his roommates. He might not invite you to his family reunion. But he won’t avoid it when he’s with you.
plan. A guy who sees something with you, even if he’s late, will plan for the weekend. He would say something like “We should see this movie when it comes out” or “We should try that restaurant next time” may seem trivial. But this shows that he intends to see you more often.
secure. If he’s slow, he’s going to make progress. He’ll still talk to you the same way. He’ll switch from coffee to dinner and eventually invite you over. But he won’t make you constantly question your interest. [Read: How to take a relationship slow, but not so slow that it ends]
If he is dating you, he will:
give a mixed signal This is the number one sign that a guy is dating you. If he’s been there for a day, then he’s gone off your radar for days only and reappears without explanation. He didn’t slow down. He’s riding a roller coaster of your emotions.
last minute planning A man who walks slowly plans ahead. But the person you are with doesn’t make you important. He’ll reach out to see if you want a drink or an overnight as he waits to see if things get better.
I know it’s intense But it’s true And you deserve better. [Read: 15 things immature men do and why you should avoid them]
Avoid deep conversations. If talking about the future, he will change the subject or not answer. He will talk about movies. Complaining about his ex Or even teasing someone who has a serious relationship but won’t be weak to you. If he cries or opens up but doesn’t support you when you do the same. He will be in it only for himself.
stay inside. The guy you are in relationship with won’t make much effort. He won’t take you out to eat. He might buy you fast food and invite you to Netflix, but he probably won’t clean his room for your benefit. This guy isn’t trying to impress you.
excuse. He will make excuses in every sense of the word. He would make excuses as to why he didn’t fix the brake lights. He then makes excuses why he didn’t call when he said he would come. He will blame his mixed signals on others rather than taking responsibility or accountability. [Read: How to deal with a guy who is sending mixed signals]
Want sex. A guy you’re in a relationship with won’t wait to have sex. maybe a couple of days but apart from that He only wanted one thing. If he asks for a dirty picture trying to have sex on the phone Or invite you over at night because he’s lonely. He will hold you back and will keep doing it because he gets what he wants unconditionally.[Read: The decoding guide for how to tell what a guy wants from you]
So is he dating you or is it going slowly? I hope you get the answer you want. If not, then resign. You’d rather enjoy yourself than be with a guy who doesn’t respect you.