Loving someone who doesn’t love you is painful. But being loved by someone who doesn’t love you can also be heartbreaking.
It’s called many things: unrequited love, friend zone, one-sided love, etc. But all of these come together into one thought: Only one person falls in love.
It’s a good premise for romantic comedy. But we all know how real life ends. Many people fall in love with someone who doesn’t love back. But they kept on trying hoping for a miracle. We’re not saying it’s impossible. Many people fall in love with those who love them first. That’s how human emotions work. Give enough love and it will come back soon, right?
Problems start when you don’t feel the same way as the people you love. Over time, this may change… But the current situation is what it is. and cannot be changed as needed
Why don’t you love the person who loves you?
There are many reasons why people One may not express the same feelings as the admirer. They may have had traumatic experiences that prevented them from opening up to new people, for example.
They may love someone else who doesn’t love them back as well. Isn’t that funny now? They may deal with their own insecurities. which in turn making them unable to allow others to enter.
Maybe they don’t like the people who love them. It might be that simple.
How does it feel to be loved by someone you don’t love?
You’d think it was a wonderful feeling. Knowing that someone is willing to give you their heart with nothing in return, to be honest, most people will sympathize with the fool who fell in love. As they reluctantly pinned the people who were crucified on the podium.
the truth is Most people don’t think how the other person feels in this situation. Seeing only the suffering of all those who give love This is what really happens to people who can’t seem to fall in love with someone.
#1 it’s a burden To be loved is good and good. But being pressured to love someone can make you feel bad. You are carrying the weight of their love. But you’re not enjoying the benefits of it.
#2 It makes you doubt yourself. Can you guess why you don’t develop feelings for the person who loves you? Is there something wrong with you? Are you a bad person? You don’t. You just don’t love. [Read: How to master positive self-talk and banish negativity]
#3 it makes you feel guilty when pressured Maybe you really consider accepting your boyfriend’s offer because it’s “yes” or not?? Things to do. Remember, there are no winners in such situations.
#4 It hurts you to see them like that. Yes, they might be hurt because you don’t love them. But it hurts you too knowing that you can’t ease their pain.
#5 You find a way to make them stop loving you. you start quarreling become a brat or treat them in vain To avoid being an idiot by rejecting your boyfriend right away. You inadvertently become an idiot by pushing them away in every possible way.
#6 It’s hard to push them away. They love you. You can’t change they can’t
#7 It’s hard to let them go. Their love for you begins to become your security blanket. Their love has started to make you feel safe and cared for. The only problem is… You are not willing to do the same for them. [Read: Ways to reject someone and what to expect afterwards]
#8 You think no one will love you again if you leave them. You start to think that this might be your last chance to love. Makes you think you shouldn’t search for something else when you already have one.
#9 You feel confident because someone loves you. Your ego has been raised so much that you can’t see that you shouldn’t rely on other people’s love. You feel that you want and need But not by the person you want and need.
#10 You feel like shit because you can’t give anything in return. Knowing that you can’t regain your feelings can make you feel like the worst. it’s not your fault But it really felt like that. Especially when someone starts trying to feel guilty. Make you feel guilty by giving your boyfriend a chance. [Read: 20 signs you’re a people pleaser and you don’t know it]
#11 Feeling uncomfortable. You can’t convince yourself to feel any romantic feelings for this person, so everything you do with them feels like a joke or a drama. makes you feel weird and unusual
#12 You are torn between wanting them in your life and letting them take their own lives. If you keep it close to you, you’ll feel like you’re pulling it in. But if you make it clear that you can’t love them the way they love you. You will end up having their hearts broken. And you’re still a bad guy, loser-loser.
What should you do?
depends on your intention Are you connecting with your unloved partner because you want to see things through? Or are you out of the misconception that you are helping them? Is it out of fault? Do you feel social pressure? Any negative feelings associated with the situation should be acknowledged and dealt with.
when feeling bad You’ll know you shouldn’t be in that situation. If it feels good to spend time with someone you care about but don’t love, that’s fine. Just make sure you’re clear and honest about where you stand. They should know that you are not in love and not know when or when you will fall in love with them.
If you are in love with someone else You should stop bringing your girlfriend away. If you want to meet other people Tell them it’s over and they should find someone else. It seems simple in the context of an article showing how. But we know that’s not the case. When feelings are involved There is no easy way to tell bad news.
Just know that your sincerity is worth more than your efforts to keep calm and alleviate your guilt.
Have you ever fallen in love with this person?
The truth is that we don’t know. Nobody knows. People fall in love when it’s right. No one can quantify or verify that this has happened. Just knowing that loving someone means overlooking the selfishness and selfishness that comes with being liked.
Even though it feels good to be loved But it should not be exchanged for the well-being of others. If you ever fell in love with someone who loves you Know that they won’t love you if you’re not worthy.