Have you ever felt guilty about feeling relieved after breaking up with someone? Put aside your guilt and rationalization with these explanations by Philip Hegarty.
You are in a relationship with someone who you believe is your soulmate and the love of your life, but things are starting to go a little wrong. And before you know it The relationship reached the bottom of the rock. and separation became an imminent reality.
You work hard to keep all traces of the good things about your shared bond. but still not enough when the breakup comes You cry or vent or drinking alcohol until it causes depression… Or maybe you didn’t do these things and experienced one thing you didn’t expect to feel… relief
Why were you relieved after the breakup?
This relief can be a little shocking. you love your partner very much And there are so many great things about them that you will miss. However, the relationship may not be as perfect as the one you convinced yourself. And there must be issues beneath the surface that don’t make your relationship feel right.
So what made you so relieved? The following list outlines ten top reasons why people feel relieved about ending a relationship.
#1 You feel suffocated in a relationship. You may have had a partner who was the most caring, caring, and helpful. People your friends always comment on how lucky you are. And how do they want them to find someone similar?
However, sometimes being focused on someone all the time can take your breath away. Are they one of those people who are always on the phone with you? Always open up uninvited? Never had your own interests? Perhaps the relief you feel comes from the fact that you spread your wings and live your own life again without observing and helping each step. [Read: 13 signs of a clingy partner]
#2 Your relationship is inappropriate This is difficult. This is because most people find it difficult to believe that physical abuse is something that can be easily overlooked to the point of breaking up. However, there are different types of abuse. And emotional/mental abuse is even more offensive and potentially dangerous.
Perhaps you are convinced that you can’t do anything on your own without this person because of a careful emotional terror campaign that has run its course over a period of time. To compensate for your ex’s fears and inadequacies The relief here is from knowing that you are a good person and even greater. And you can free yourself from abuse. [Read: 21 big telltale signs of emotional abuse]
#3 You’re not interested in your partner anymore. You might be afraid of the word ‘shallow’, but attraction is a big deal. No matter what your definition of attractiveness is. Be it mentally, physically, sexually or otherwise. It’s still important to have a feeling of passion or at least romantic attraction to your partner. A romantic relationship becomes a friendship. And the relief may come from knowing that you are now free to treat it like one.
#4 You have a disappointing sex life. If you left your bedroom feeling more excited the last time you ate a tuna mayo sandwich. This could be another reason for your relief. Although sexual prowess and innovation are not the end of all relationships. But it’s also an important part of developing an emotional connection.
Your relief may come from the fact that you no longer have to pretend to have sex. Or maybe it’s because you are now free to find more exciting sexual exploits elsewhere. [Read: 9 awkward signs you’re having bad sex with your partner]
#5 you are cheated whether directly responsible for the separation or not Cheating is something that shouldn’t be related. You may have discovered or confessed your love to her. But even after much thought You decide to leave it behind and let the relationship go on. Things will never be the same again.
The bond of trust is broken and there is often an element of uneasiness at the back of your mind. You also need to try to rebuild trust within your relationship. The fact that this uneasiness is finally dealt with by separation from your cheating partner may be the reason for this feeling of relief. [Read: 10 reasons men cheat on women, and 25 reasons women cheat on their guys]
#6 You have found a more suitable person. Even if you have never thought of cheating on your lover at all. But you might meet someone you might be interested in. Whether it’s sharp wit, good looks, or invisible intelligence. They just haunt you and make your ex look a little too ordinary. Even though you probably never thought of hurting anyone. But the relief you feel is that you are free to pursue a new, attractive person. [Read: How to tell if you’re starting to get attracted to someone]
#7 Your relationship is unstable. They might be the funniest people you’ll ever meet and keep you courting all the time. They might have a Hollywood look. They could be Albert. the real einstein But what they can’t do is save money, take time off, or commit to normal life plans.
Past qualities may carry magic with you over a short period of time. But you eventually wake up to find that your partner is lazily giving up his or her life, and as a result, you live accordingly. Escaping from a dying relationship or an unstable partner will make you glad you left.
#8 your partner is bored of you This point is quite the opposite of the previous one. The only situation in which you are stable. However, in this case, you may choose a homemaker as your partner. Which is a sensible choice that many people cook on the table and a good roof over your head is guaranteed.
But relationships can be without passion. No inspiration, organized and even boring! Maybe you’re relieved to be in a position where you can now add a little passion back into your life. where you can start a crazy life a little and enjoy everything you missed. [Read: 15 reasons you’re bored with your relationship]
#9 There is an unexplained tension in your relationship. without any apparent reason You and your partner may start to annoy each other. The clouds descend on relationships and turn everything sour, with arguments erupting every time the most ridiculous trifles, like how to make the right coffee or to throw the toilet seat up or down. There may be a love that is deeply ingrained between the both of you that seems too good to throw away for a while. But the relief you feel is evident due to the release of all tensions and quarrels.
#10 You have mismatched intelligence levels. one more difficult Everything could be perfect – again with looks, sex life, charisma, humor – but one day you wake up and realize you need a smart conversation with the love of your life or you. It may be perceived that your partner wants to have more intelligent conversations that you cannot keep up with.
If you are one of the smarter You may be relieved that you don’t have to simplify everything you want to discuss. If you’re someone who feels your partner is too smart. Your relief may come from the fact that you no longer feel like every conversation is a college lecture. [Read: 15 highs and lows of dating someone smarter than you]
You shouldn’t be ashamed to feel relieved after the breakup. After all, your break-up means that you both admit that there’s something wrong with your relationship. Your guilt about your relief will only hold you back. So just accept this feeling and move on with a smile!