Ups and downs in relationships are perfectly normal. However, extreme volatility is a big red flag and a warning sign of a tumultuous relationship.
Before going into details about what a chaotic relationship is. Let’s first discuss what this word means. Even I didn’t know that before I started writing this feature. *I’m a writer, right?*
Let’s go: chaos – characterized by chaos; mental or emotional agitation
What are you waiting for? That’s the same as every relationship out there, isn’t it? Actually, no. A hectic relationship is one that prevails in terms of physical and emotional expression.
Couples tend to feel and express more. this is good But it can also be a bad thing. especially if it’s causing you pain.
I read an article somewhere saying that having a tumultuous relationship might be helpful. I see that as irresponsible relationship advice. Romantic relationships have their ups and downs. But it should not be said that negative events should be a marker for positive outcomes. [Read: Secrets of a love-hate relationship – Can it ever last?]
What causes a tumultuous relationship?
A hectic relationship can be unhealthy in the long run. Two people can’t deal with that much stress when they plan to spend the rest of their lives together. Relationships can’t be just chaos. There should be a balance with good challenges in making people better and more in tune with their emotions.
Now we have defined it. It’s time to make it easier. This is a sign that you are in a tumultuous relationship.
#1 You fight for the same thing over and over again. A hectic relationship is like a roller coaster. Unfortunately, the car doesn’t stop unless you force yourself to get out of it. When you do the same things over and over whether happy or not You begin to develop this framework in which you think it’s normal for a relationship. [Read: 18 critical signs of an unhealthy relationship]
#2 You use manipulation to get what you want. Most people don’t know that they are dealing with their partner. They also sometimes deny it. Examples include guilt. Throwing stones, insulting, insulting, defending and deviating from criticism.
Turbulent relationships revolve around these actions. [Read: 12 subtle signs you’re constantly being manipulated by your lover]
#3 You rely too much on your partner. You think the relationship works because you feel that your happiness depends on it. The truth is that you may be dependent on your partner and vice versa. That’s why you keep coming back to the same place over and over.
Good or bad, you live because living without a partner makes you feel lonely, neglected, or depressed. [Read: 10 scary signs of codependency in your relationship]
#4 You are too closed off from your partner. This can go either way. Sometimes the cause of conflict or suffering is because you didn’t do anything to resolve the situation. Usually because couples in rocky relationships tend to hide their feelings. or at least expressing the type of guilt
The key is not to stick with what you say. That helps couples make important decisions faster and easier.
#5 when you are happy Consider your relationship perfect. The bar you set is too low. This is what you think you deserve. So you fight tooth and nail for it.
Sometimes it’s best to step back and take a closer look at what you think is perfect. for most of us A healthy, happy relationship is often a good relationship with minor issues that can be dealt with as an adult.
#6 when you are not happy You think it’s the end of your relationship. for you man It’s hard, isn’t it? none in between Sadly there is always a bounce. You’ll come back when you feel like there’s a chance to be happy again. [Read: Yo-yo relationship and why they’ll never ever work out]
#7 You ask people to check. Instead of solving your problems with your partner “Did I do the right thing? I don’t think I can do this again. What do you think? Should we try again?”
To be honest, your friend’s ear is probably already bleeding during this time. You are too cowardly and stubborn about your relationship. But you want people to tell you what to do. It’s useless. because you won’t listen Go to a therapist instead. People listen when they pay $100 an hour for advice.
#8 You destroy things, put them back together, destroy them again. After that, the cycle continues. This is the most obvious market in your busy relationship. Rocky is just an understatement. You and your partner play dangerous games with your emotions. It’s best to sit down. talk about it and consider whether the next breakup will be the last. [Read: 8 reasons getting back with your ex is self-sabotage]
What can you do about your tumultuous relationship?
First, assess everything about your relationship. From the beginning until today to help you get more perspective Here are some tips.
#1 Let’s see why you like this person. Its purpose is to assess whether you want to be with this person. because of who they are or why they can’t give you You can’t have just one of them. You need to know if you like or love both of them.
#2 Ask yourself if they are still the same person you fell in love with. Once you’ve figured out who you should love. Ask yourself: Are they still people? Is it there? Can they still go back to being the same person? [Read: 15 reasons why you’re bored with your relationship]
#3 Check to see if your arguments or arguments are detrimental to your social life, career, and other relationships. yours? if the answer is yes You have to re-prioritize. If you really love this person You will have to give up the rest. because you can’t let people that can all be destroyed
If you focus on your relationship Make sure it’s worth it. There are certain situations that are normal, for example, if your loved one has issues that need to be dealt with as a couple. If not, you should focus on what makes you a better person. [Read: Right person, wrong time? The key to timing it all right]
#4 Compare how sad you are to how happy you tend to be. If you are more sad than happy It’s time to point out happiness, gratitude, and a healthy mind. You can continue your relationship this way. But if your partner is traveling with you
#5 See if you have a habit of using happy times as an excuse not to think about sad times. Normal people do this. People in turbulent relationships consider this a lifeline. It’s unhealthy for not being able to express happy moments. These things happen in their own time when you put yourself in the right situations and thoughts.
#6 Consider your two options: breakup or relationship therapy. A tumultuous relationship is not a dead end. There is always hope for better results.
This is possible by opening up to your partner. Show your weakness in a good way. and may even seek professional help If you can’t pay You and your partner can go online and find free resources from news and recommendation sites like LovePanky. [Read: 5 reasons couple’s therapy isn’t working for you]
#7 Focus on yourself more than your partner or relationship. Finally, while you are working on your relationship Make sure you value your well-being. This won’t work when you’re worried or worried about how to fix your relationship.
Make yourself feel better by using better methods like communicating with friends, doing fun things, living a healthier lifestyle, etc. This is the most authentic advice you will ever receive. if you are not happy Your relationship will never be happy. It’s going to be as messy as it is now, or even worse.
[Read: Emotional roller coaster: Are you stuck in an unhealthy ride?]Does this give you any idea that you are in a tumultuous relationship? If you are, are you ready to take the next step to fix it?
