Are you a little single? Do you often jump from relationship to relationship? if so It could be that you are monogamous without even realizing it!
Are you someone who has a long-term, ongoing relationship? Are you clinging to unhappy relationships because you are afraid of being alone? Have you noticed a pattern when it comes to the person you’re dating? If you nod in agreement It is possible that you are a continuous monogamous person.
You might be wondering why this is a bad thing. If you are a monogamous So you’re not cheating on anyone, right? Yes, but you need to question your motivation. Sometimes being single is a good thing. It helps you focus on what you want and helps you find people who fit your values in life. Worrying about being alone can force you into a relationship that doesn’t suit you.
To find out if you are a continuous monogamist or not. Let’s explore the topic in more detail. [Read: Is monogamy for you? How to know your needs and what works for you]
What exactly is Serial Monogamist?
If you’ve never heard of this word before. A monogamous is a person who has only one partner. But if you are a continuous monogamous lover You are the one who still has a monopoly relationship. One by one without breaks between them, the Continuous Monogamist is someone who loves being in love and always finds himself in a relationship!
Think about who we can give you as an example of a monogamous couple. How is Jennifer Lopez? Do you remember the last time J-Lo was single? We can’t. She tends to quickly switch from relationship to relationship. And that’s the definition of continuous monogamy. [Read: Monogamous relationships and your mind]
Is being a persistent monogamist a bad thing?
Yes and no. It all depends on why you do it. If you didn’t know it and it just happened. Maybe there’s nothing to worry about. Sometimes life goes that way. However, if you do it because you don’t like being alone or single. That’s something completely different.
Let’s examine the pros and cons for a clearer answer to this question.
The advantages of having a continuous monogamy
1. Never cheating, making him a reliable partner
2. You develop strong relationships that enrich your life. [Read: What makes a good relationship? 30 Signs of a great relationship]
3. You learn a lot about yourself in a relationship and what you can offer to your spouse.
4. You learn about what you will and will not put up with the relationship.
Disadvantages of Continuous Monogamy
1. Relationships don’t always last too long. This means that the relationship will gradually Disappeared before I had a chance to really start.
2. You get bored quickly and go on.
3. You don’t have time to be alone and learn who you are as an individual.
4It may be that you are using continuous monogamy as a mask for something else, such as a lack of confidence. [Read: The 9 main relationship stages every couple goes through]
Is continuous monogamy a conscious choice or just an accident?
it can be either Some people choose to be serial monogamous. They like this because it gives them stability in their relationship. but for some They know it doesn’t mean forever. You might argue that it’s a casual style of dating. in one form Because monogamous almost knows that they will not be with that person. But it doesn’t sleep next to it either, as the name suggests. Persistent monogamy is that – monogamous and never cheated. [Read: Seriously, can someone please define monogamy?]
However, for some people, they love being in love and can’t help falling in love with someone else. That in itself can be a problem. The feeling of being in love and all the wonderful things happens because you meet someone special. That doesn’t mean you should do one at a time. You can’t fall in love with everyone you meet right!
So is it a choice or an accident? For some it’s a choice, for others it’s an unwitting thing that they do without understanding why. Play fair for being honest But you need to know that your motivation is positive. Not because you just feel uncomfortable being alone.
Obviously you are a monogamous couple.
It should be noted that one sex is not more likely to be monogamous. Both men and women can be monogamous. On the negative side, many people may view this as a breakup. And maybe be wary of dating someone who is monogamous.
Do you think you are a serial monogamist? Learn what are the key signs of a continuous mate. and find out what you can do to change that. or better understand yourself [Read: How to be in a relationship when the world of monogamy is so new]
1. You can easily start and build relationships.
Some may think it’s too easy. A persistent monogamist has no problem finding a date. Usually, the two of you have instant chemistry. which may make it easy for you to understand
However, oftentimes you may act too quickly. Shortly after meeting this person You immediately called them boyfriends. Sometimes there may be a conversation early on. about moving in together and getting married Finally you have to spin your whole world around this person. Do you want to know everything about them: cat or dog? hot or cold? Hamburgers or hot dogs? And that’s great. But often in this process You start to lose some of your identity in relationships. And that’s not very good. [Read: 10 reasons why saying ‘I love you’ too soon sucks!]
2. You really hate dating.
I mean, who doesn’t? However, you are the one who avoids it at all costs. Even if you like the idea of dating. But when it comes to really trying to get together you just can’t stand it You have to be with only one person in particular.
It’s not that you don’t just like having a boyfriend, you actually like it more. You enjoy the physical intimacy that a relationship can provide. Even if you try to date multiple people. But you find yourself interested in people. the only one [Read: Is serial monogamy easier on the heart? – Why so many people turn into serial monogamists]
3. You’re hardly single, or maybe never.
You are the one who stays in the relationship as long as possible. *Even if you’re unhappy* because thinking being alone is worse than having a bitter relationship? Are you afraid of being alone forever? If you’re the type to go from one relationship to the next without ever being alone. It’s possible that you may be an ongoing monogamous person.
A serial monogamist often has to be with someone to feel complete. But it’s likely to be void that you used someone else to fill out. Perhaps you feel insecure and constantly need the attention and approval of the opposite sex. This is just proof that you are not ready to be in a relationship.
If you’re not with someone and it feels like the world is falling apart. It’s time to reevaluate yourself. Although you may think that being single has a stigma attached to it, But taking time for yourself is very important. This can be a problem for successive monogamists as they don’t seem to be able to live long enough.
4. After breaking up You quickly approached the next person.
This is most likely related to the reason why you haven’t. *or hardly* single, you are recovering all the time. and believe that the fastest way to win over someone is to be under someone else. mixed with their current life partner. They will be open to options. They will begin to look for other opportunities. before things will end just to prepare Just to make sure they are not alone. [Read: 18 subtle signs you’re already having an emotional affair with someone without even realizing it!]
5. You choose quantity over quality in a relationship.
At first, things can be great for serial monogamers. There is an undeniable chemistry with one another. But it ended very quickly. You’re not just transitioning from one relationship to another. But they are generally short-lived. because your expectations are too low
Because you are afraid of being alone. It’s inevitable that you’ll leave your quality behind and inevitably take whoever comes into you next. but for your own benefit You have to learn to be more selective in the dating process. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad new partner]
6. You are romantic at heart.
It’s true. You believe in one true love. and be with people One for the rest of your life If you can’t see yourself with your present partner for the rest of your life Show that you put an end to everything This may be why your relationship is short-lived. You are always looking for people that is always for you every time you meet someone new You will always be sure that this is the person. But then a new potential customer came in. and the process started all over again. [Read: The single’s guide to creating a perfect romantic meet cute in your life]
7Deep down, you want to be in a committed relationship. But you find yourself unable to take the next step.
Don’t get us wrong, continuous monogamists want to commit to long-term relationships. You really want to take the next step in your relationship. whether moving in together or getting married But for some reason, you can’t
After a certain point in the relationship *Maybe after a few months or a year or two* things start to fade. You start to feel trapped and almost uncomfortable with someone. Argument takes place Why is this? It may be that you fear the emotional intimacy of the relationship. Finally you broke up [Read: 10 sure signs you’ve got the fear of long-term commitment]
8. There is a physical connection rather than an emotional connection.
Do you have a desire to give someone physical love? Maybe thirsty for it? Is your relationship based more on your physical level than your emotions? This could be a sign that you are monogamous. If you are unable to connect with your partner on an emotional level It will be difficult to continue.
9. You tend to find it difficult to be alone.
Serial monogamists often have problems with independence. That doesn’t mean you need someone by your side all the time. But you may find it uncomfortable to be alone. This is probably one of the most worrying signs to be aware of. Because it indicates a negative reason for your behavior. Being alone is not a bad thing. Even if it’s just going to a restaurant or going out to eat alone. It gives you time to think and process the day. [Read: Fear of being alone: How to let go of your fear and find peace]
10. The really intense part of the relationship is quite frightening to you.
As we’ve said, it’s not that serial monogamists don’t want to jump. But something stopped them from crossing the line. If the seriousness of your relationship gives you chills Perhaps that should have sounded a warning bell. We’re talking about things like long-term planning. meeting parents or even moving in together
11. You rarely take the time to find out about your partner’s past relationships.
It’s not that you should care too much about whether or not your partner has a long dating history. But you should at least take the time to explore what they tell you. For example, are they divorced? Have they ever been unfaithful before? And maybe that’s why they were a little hesitant in the beginning. Here are all the details that will help you get to know your partner better and make your relationship better. When you don’t spend time searching for information That’s because you didn’t mean to go around. [Read: How to talk about a past relationship with your partner]
12. You don’t really know your partner well.
This one sounds weird right? Persistent monogamy tends to like the idea of being in love. but that’s the problem They like the concept. but not a real practice You can love someone properly until you know them. warts and everything If you don’t take the time to do that, or jump too quickly. Show that you really don’t know this person at all.
13. You have big thoughts about love.
We have already said that continuous monogamy is romantic. But it’s very possible that your idea of love is unrealistic. You have a Disney love in your heart. And when real life doesn’t work like that You will become irritable, indifferent, and decide that something is wrong in your relationship. That, of course, leads you to the next by continually pursuing your romantic ideal. [Read: 20 Secrets that will help you find the one]
14. Your friends don’t remember who you were dating.
It’s not because they don’t care. But because they are countless and can’t keep up! That’s a clear sign of a continuous monogamist and something you shouldn’t really be proud of. Don’t let your partner hear your friends talk about your lack of knowledge about your current relationship. Not only will it cause pain. But it also makes them question your motivation and commitment to them.
15. You find the honeymoon very exciting.
you hate dating But you love the honeymoon You skip the confusing dating section and go straight to the beginning. Crazy and full of butterflies When everything is hearts and roses for you, this is exciting and addictive. As the relationship calms down and becomes more commonplace. you will continue [Read: 13 Signs the honeymoon phase is starting to wane in your eyes]
Are you a serial monogamist?
do one of these 8 Sounds like you? If you are still unsure if you are a monogamous person or not? Take a look at your past experiences in relationships.
What should you do if you jump into different relationships? Which usually only takes a few years? It’s time to break up with each other. Take a break for more than a week Maybe even one or six months. Although it’s a scary concept. But it’s important to you.
Remember that being single is not the end of the world!
Oftentimes, you may confuse yourself with being alone. Don’t! Contrary to what you believe Indeed, being single is good for health. If you are a persistent monogamous person and find yourself single for the first time in eternity. This is your chance to discover yourself and develop fully as a person. Use this time to discover your hobbies and interests. This is your chance to do all the things you can’t do when you have a partner. but at the same time It’s important to mourn the relationship and allow yourself to be healed. [Read: 15 reasons why being single can be so much fun too!]
When you’re happy and comfortable with yourself You’ll just know that you’re ready to be in a relationship again. That’s when you know that you can truly be happy with other people. It’s important to understand that you won’t be single for the rest of your life. You will grow and learn to love yourself. Don’t let the constant monogamy ruin your chances of meeting a truly wonderful person.[Read: 16 signs you’re definitely not ready for a serious relationship!]
If you see signs of ongoing monogamy in you Wean yourself from intimacy issues and the fear of boredom in existing relationships. and if you are single Try to understand yourself and your true needs before plunging into a relationship.