Have you ever asked yourself “Is he using me?” If so, You are not alone or out of luck. Follow these signs to know for sure.
I’ve been in love with a guy for two years who wants nothing more than to be my friend. I always ask myself, “Is he using me?” Spoiler alert: The answer is yes, but can I see it? No.
The signs that he used me were there and clear. But I’m so interested in him that I don’t see or don’t want to see.
don’t make the mistake i made Instead of seeing what you want to see Look for what’s in front of you. This will not only save you a lot of time. But it also saves you from unnecessary tears.[Read: Is he emotionally detached from you? 15 signs he absolutely doesn’t care about you]
Is he using me?
I hate to say this. I don’t want to be harsh But if you’re smart about him using you, then you’re right. We’ll check the signs for sure. You wouldn’t question it.
trust your gut It hurts when men use you. no solution But it will hurt a lot later if you keep denying it.
I’m there. I knew deep down that all the labels he used were there for me. but i refuse to see I don’t want to believe that I was being deceived. It was a terrible feeling. But it’s true [Read: How to listen to your gut and give strength to your inner voice]
Before you look for signs that he is using you. open your eyes Try not to look at him through rose-colored glasses.
Look at him from outside your feelings. You have to look at his behavior objectively. if not then You will always make excuses for him and keep telling yourself that there is no hope where it might not be.
Step back from your situation and really try to look at these signs. that he is using you for what he is not what you expect[Read: 15 signs he’s talking to another girl and using you until he hooks her]
The biggest sign that he is using you that you shouldn’t ignore.
If you’re stressed about a relationship or situation with a guy you like. It’s time to look at it from another perspective. Let things be as they are and hope to find clarity you will not work.
Watch out for these warning signs that a guy is using you. You might be surprised how many there are and how clear they are.
1. He calls you only after sunset.
This is the oldest trick in the book. If you notice that you’ve never really seen him. when the sun goes down Show that he is a vampire or is looking for a thief’s claim. choose the latter
if you are not sure You can always test this by asking him to hang out during the day. And make sure it’s the day he’s off work. So that you and he can’t use that as an excuse. He still said he was busy? of course he did
he doesn’t want to speak He doesn’t want to know your personality. He doesn’t want to see your friend. He only wants thieves and thieves. Come on, girl, he’s just using you. [Read: 17 sordid signs you’re just a hookup and nothing more to the guy you like]
2. He doesn’t take you on a real date.
Has he ever invited you to eat ice cream or took you out to dinner? No. if a guy likes you He’ll take you out and spend some good time with you. This doesn’t mean he’ll take you to a five-star restaurant. The point is, he wants to spend time with you outside the bedroom. If he doesn’t take you out on a date Show that this guy doesn’t want to invest any time in getting to know you unless he breaks up.
Men who want more than sex will do their best. They want you to like and impress them. The guy who uses you works as little as possible.
3.He’s a monday to thursday guy kinda.
Is he always busy on weekends? Can’t hang out on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays? Yes, that’s because he’s busy finding other girls and has better plans than meeting you. Ouch!
If he wants to hang out with you during the week It could be because he’s just using you and doesn’t see you as the right choice for a relationship. For him, you’re better off watching porn at home, but it’s not worth canceling other plans.
Do you want to be with a guy who sees you as just one step away from porn? No, no, you don’t. This isn’t the guy for you. [Read: We accept the love we deserve – Why aren’t you worthy?]
4. He doesn’t reply to your messages.
He did not respond to any messages that did not begin with. “What are you going to do later?” It’s not because his phone is broken or he’s busy. I mean, he doesn’t want to talk. He doesn’t care what memes you find hilarious or how your day is.
If you’re wondering if he’s using me, he’s actually just using you! And trying to talk to him all day wasn’t his thing. If he replies to your message about the TV show you watched last night. Or that annoying colleague you have that won’t stop inviting you. The answer may be just one word to give you enough hope.
He wants to know when the two of you can have sex. And if he’s not willing to text you back beyond planning. He was able to find someone else to have sex with. you deserve better [Read: 15 signs he just wants sex and is only using you for his sexual pleasure]
5. He avoids serious discussions.
Asking “what are we?” is a stressful conversation for everyone. But if he has the intention of being more than sex, he’ll suck it up and talk. If you’ve mentioned his feelings or intentions many times and it ends up being avoided by him and you feel ridiculous. you have the answer
Remember this: If a man wants something he will go find it If he wants to date you He will make that happen.
So if you’re wondering “Is he using me?” and asked him “Where is this going?” and he avoided like a professional dodgeball player. You know he doesn’t care much more than the two of you already have. “I’m not sure what I want.” That would be a lie. He’s just using you and trying to stay in your pants while he takes care of your feet.
The guy who is using you wants to keep using you. He wants you to think there’s hope so that he doesn’t come out and say he wants nothing more than sex because that’s how you end up. Instead, he would hit around the bushes. So you probably hope for more. What a great man, right? [Read: What are we? Getting your crush to label your relationship]
6. You don’t know his friends.
Do you know his group of friends? Have you seen them? If he doesn’t introduce you to his friends. That’s not a good sign. Think about it when you really like a guy. You introduce them to your friends for approval. It’s the same with men They want to show off their new boyfriend and get an “okay” from the guy.
Sure, some guys might be slow. But not meeting your roommates is a dangerous sign. If he’s more interested in sex with you He also wants his friends to know you. It’s so clear
7. He doesn’t kiss you outside the bedroom.
Of course, he kisses you romantically and seductively when the two of you are in the bedroom. How can he get you interested again? However, what happens when the lights are on and you are in public? Does he kiss you sweetly on the cheek? In what ways do you show love? number?
If he doesn’t touch or kiss you in public. Maybe because he didn’t want to show up as if he had been kidnapped. He wants to look single. Why? So he could still go pick up another woman or worse… He was taken by someone else. Unless he doesn’t like PDAs, however, I would loathe that excuse. [Read: The science behind craving them more when you feel ignored]
8. He doesn’t talk about personal things.
Does he know what subjects you are studying in school? Does he know your favorite color is magenta? Probably not. Because he doesn’t care. And chances are you don’t know much about him.
He doesn’t need to know this information. I mean, for what? He already has what he wants from you. So there’s no need for him to do it anymore. He won’t give much information about himself because he wants to shut himself down too.
Personal information in the bedroom is useless. unless they are sexually involved If he doesn’t want to know you He’s not interested in being with you. [Read: Why do guys only want to hook up with me? And all you want is a real boyfriend!]
9. He never pays
Okay, guys don’t pay for everything, this isn’t 1950, but usually. when a guy is interested in you They will treat you to a movie or dinner. Of course, he may have a limited budget. but a guy who really likes you Will eat a PB&J sandwich every night for a week to treat you. If he always pays you Show that something is wrong
People who duplicate everything are friends. Strictly friends, but in this case, he was lucky, he didn’t pay anything and he was still robbed. He’s just using you and he’s getting a good deal at the same time, right? [Read: Is he stringing you along or taking it slow? How to read his mind]
10. He plays on the phone all the time.
When you’re with him and he’s running out to answer incoming calls or texts. That’s a good sign that you’re not alone. He uses dating apps, talks to his girlfriend, or calls other people.
Isn’t it unusual for him to talk on the phone near you, but never answer your calls or messages? if he is interested in you He’ll put his phone away and give you undivided attention. But he’s busy arranging the next hook, which isn’t cool.
In addition, if he is always talking on the phone This shows how much he respects you. which is not much [Read: The pain of loving someone who doesn’t love you back]
11. Your friend doesn’t trust him.
when you are with a guy who likes you Your friends will be eager to hear about it. If you tell your friends about this guy and they roll their eyes or worry you’ll get hurt. to listen to them they know you If they asked about his intentions That’s a sign that they don’t see what you’re not.
Not only did they not meet him. But also see how you talk about him and how he makes you feel. Do they know you are happy and feel respected and appreciated? if they don’t trust him You shouldn’t either.
12. You have a temper.
lady, you already know We can show you all the signs. And you can select and analyze through it. but in your instinct you know the truth You know what your relationship status is. And you know what he wants
When you’re not sure, there’s a reason for it. if a guy likes you He wants you to know. I’m sorry, but no matter how much you like him. The feeling was inconsistent. [Read: Are you being ignored after sex? The truth behind ghosting after sex]
What if he uses you
Letting go of something is difficult. And I know from experience Letting go of someone who doesn’t treat you right is surprisingly harder than you might think.
The best way to step away from the guy you expected is to look at who he is. Maybe you stick with the good stuff. something he said But looking back at the relationship as a whole. If you can call it that
Does he compliment you? Does he respect your opinion or time? Have you shared anything in common? Do you have similar views on life?
I guess all the answers are no, or worse I don’t know. Do you really like this guy or is he there?
What do you really like about him? Maybe he’s hot That’s exaggerated and not enough to establish a connection.[Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend you should never ignore!]
You might be convinced that you like him more than you actually do. because you want You want it to work out and if you like him enough Maybe he likes you too?
When you know you really don’t want to be with a guy like that. Letting go will be much easier. You are worthy of a man who treats you like his queen. It’s not a second or third option. So why did you agree? [Read: He’s not ready for a relationship but he likes me – What you need to do next]
Let me help, not because he has full potential. It’s because you have hope and let go of the bad. Living in a fantasy land full of denial may be easier than dealing with the reality that he’s not a good person.
But when you accept the truth You can stop wasting your time and meet the wonderful guy you missed.[Read: Backburner babe – 14 signs you’re definitely nothing more than a backup lover]
It’s hard to accept the fact that the guy you like is using you. when answered that “Is he using me?” Yes, it hurts your feelings and ego. when you see that he is using you You will be able to end the relationship and find someone who wants to get to know you. You know you can do better, girl!
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