You just had amazing sex. But now he’s strange and distant. Why do men distance themselves after intimacy? It’s time for you to find out why.
You’re not the only one who thinks they connect with men during sex. Then they magically disappear, making you wonder why men stay distant after intimacy.
And this isn’t the first time. This is one of the most common questions women ask about men. And it makes sense. I mean, come on, why did you do that, asshole?
Okay, okay, calling names doesn’t help us get anywhere. All we need is an answer! We often end up insulting ourselves and the things we do wrong. Did I let out a little fart? Am I too aggressive? Is it bad sex?[Read: Dos and don’ts of after-sex etiquette]
How are you after intimacy?
Before we understand why men are estranged after intimacy. We have to look at our own behavior. It’s not that we did anything to drive him out. but naturally Women react differently after sex than men. It’s biological if you believe so.
in fact, Dr. Azim LokaniSexologists explain this through hormones. when having sex Women release oxytocin, which stimulates bonding and leads to deeper emotions. But men release dopamine, which is more about physical pleasure than emotional.
This doesn’t mean that a guy can’t feel you after being intimate. But it means that you naturally react after intimacy is different. It doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong or that he doesn’t like you.[Read: 19 subtle signs he really likes you even if he’s hiding his feelings]
Why do men distance themselves after intimacy?
First of all, stop thinking that it’s only you. It’s not. But what we do know is that the guy is totally silent. he did not write to you when you text him It will take him several hours to respond. It’s almost like he doesn’t exist, oh, but you know he exists. He is near… breathe
So we’ll let you know why he’s not obsessed with you after your wonderful night together. Ugh, even though we love sex. But it can definitely be destroyed. everything. this is the reason
1. The chase is over.
People love to flirt and play games. Although we have all said at one point that “I hate playing games.” Finally, we love it. we love being chased and they like to chase
But now you’ve slept with him. The chase was over. he wants to know about you you are a mystery Now you don’t. It’s terrible, but this can happen to a masculine guy. That doesn’t get it right. But it’s true
So what is he doing? Continue the hunt. That’s right. It’s sad. So what happens? You start chasing them. [Read: Why do men like a chase and how to use this in your favor]
2. He doesn’t want a relationship.
it is not you That’s the problem. The problem was, he saw that this wasn’t just a fling. But it is something that can become serious. He doesn’t want to be serious It’s not because you’re not right for him. because he wasn’t ready yet
You may have heard him say to you, “I’m not ready for anything serious,” but when I get to know you You choose to ignore it and see if you’re the exception. You’re not, and that’s why he’s alienated. again cruel but it happened [Read: Why do guys only want to hook up with you?]
3. He never intended to sleep with you more than once.
We know this will sting, but sometimes guys are specifically looking for a one-night stand. Of course, the right thing to do is tell you, but in some cases, they don’t because they know you won’t sleep with them. otherwise
Yes, this is very messy. It’s disrespectful and rude. And you are left feeling deceived and even ashamed. which you shouldn’t But this guy is a player. He’s not planning anything more with you. just That night and that night only [Read: 17 sordid signs you’re just a hookup to him and nothing more]
4. You move too fast
You’re sleeping with him now. You’re preparing breakfast for him in bed and planning a weekend together. This can be a lot for him. Especially after sex when his hormones tell him to withdraw.
If you’re planning a future with him after one night. He will run and he will run fast.
You have to slow down and go with the flow now. Enjoy the time you share and get to know them. You don’t need to be fully committed as soon as you set your bed. [Read: How to stop yourself from moving too fast in a new relationship]
5. You’re tough
Okay, maybe you’re not joking right now. But he can sense the potential for you to become a miser. This may not make sense to you. But he may have dealt with it before, and that might be predictable. it’s not fair but it happened
We know you really like him and want something serious. But clinging to him like a life raft won’t work. not to mention You may not like him as much as you think.
It’s possible that you don’t know him well enough. Sex can make you feel closer to him, so step back and get to know him.
6. he is afraid
man afraid of love Most women believe this. And we cannot say that it is partially true.
The minute they see the potential to like you. they ran away They don’t want to get hurt or they want to lose their single life. Plus, having serious feelings for someone is a big deal, so if you know he has feelings for you and act. Far away, he will be afraid [Read: The signs he likes you and wants a relationship but is terrified]
What if he was pulled away after intimacy?
Okay, now you know why he pulled away. You have to figure out how you can get him back. Don’t worry, it’s not over until the end, so you still have a chance to redeem yourself. You may be feeling anxious right now. But don’t be because this situation is totally normal.
1. Give him space
we know what you think You don’t want to do this because you’re worried that he’ll find someone else or forget you.
Look, obsessing over him and stalking him clearly doesn’t work. So you have to give him space. If you give him the space he needs He can think things through, clear his head and calm down. Giving him space shows him that you can give him space when needed.
don’t reach out If he likes you, he’ll reach out. have confidence in that If he makes you wait too long Don’t let him become obsessed with your thoughts. Keep going. [Read: How to give him space without losing him]
2. Play for fun
In your head you’re going crazy It is to be expected, but on the surface you have to cool like a cucumber. Don’t show him that he’s coming for you. Aw, but telling him how bad it is won’t help. At least not now
Have him come to you. Relax. Find a hobby to spend your time. when he reached out Don’t let him get away with it, or he’ll normalize this temporary hypnosis. [Read: Guys who ghost and come back – How to handle the zombies of dating]
3. Show him that you can’t. need he
Now he’s freaking out because he thinks it’s the end of him as a bachelor. whatever that means But all you have to do is show him that you don’t need him.
Are you an independent woman? So be that woman out with friends Go on with your normal life and show him that you’re fine on your own.
4. Make him chase you
giving him space He will have time to rest and reflect on things. clearly Now you want him back to you. Well let him chase you Have him come to you to make a commitment instead of doing something else.
Show him that you don’t need him and leave him alone. He would see how wrong he was. [Read: 15 ways to get a guy to chase you and fall hard for you]
5. Don’t be rude, keep an open mind.
When he comes back to you, don’t be rude and shut up. You want him back, right? So you need to open up and communicate.
Let him know how rejection makes you feel and you’ll understand why he does it if he explains it, but that’s not something he should be familiar with.
Let him talk to you about his emotions and thoughts. with this information You understand his fears and see what freaks him out. That way, you can prevent this from happening again.[Read: 11 post-sex rules and rituals everyone should follow]
When you understand the type of man he is You’ll understand why men tend to distance themselves after intimacy. He could be a player Or he might have feelings for you. You just have to figure it out.